We don\u2019t enjoy confrontation, but it\u2019s impossible to grow without it. Healthy confrontation calls for \u2018speaking the truth in love\u2019<\/i> (Ephesians\u00a04:15\u00a0NIV) to those we value. Just as God confronts each of us in areas where we need to grow, He expects us to do the same for others. Is it easy? No. But here are some guiding principles to help you: <\/p>\n
(1) Talk to the person, not about them.<\/i> Healthy confrontation should be direct and, when possible, done in private. It calls for thoughtful communication, delivered firmly but graciously. When people are hurting, handle them with care. <\/p>\n
(2) Don\u2019t exaggerate or use spiritual hype.<\/i> Give specific examples. Don\u2019t hide behind words like \u2018I believe the Lord has shown me that you\u2019re wrong.\u2019 When Nathan the prophet confronted King David about his sin with Bathsheba, he was specific. And keep your emotions in check; allow enough time between the offence and the confrontation for a prayerful defusing of any anger you feel. <\/p>\n
(3) Don\u2019t guilt-trip them; help them.<\/i> Don\u2019t leave somebody in a stew without clear direction on how to improve. That\u2019s not fair, and it\u2019s not constructive. Actually, it can lead to more intense issues and unwanted complications. The best approach is to calmly identify the problem and suggest ways it can be resolved. Your goal isn\u2019t to expose somebody but to show them a better way. <\/p>\n
(4) Don\u2019t be critical; be compassionate.<\/i> If you miss everything else, don\u2019t miss this! If you do, you will find yourself condemning rather than confronting. If you\u2019re honest, you will admit that your own road to success has had some potholes\u2014so approach others with love and concern.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
We don\u2019t enjoy confrontation, but it\u2019s impossible to grow without it. Healthy confrontation calls for \u2018speaking the truth in love\u2019 (Ephesians\u00a04:15\u00a0NIV) to those we value. Just as God confronts each of us in areas where we need to grow, He expects us to do the same for others. Is it easy? No. But here are […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1803"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1803"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1803\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1803"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1803"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1803"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}