People pleasing does two things: <\/p>\n
(1) It makes you neglect your own needs in order to meet other people\u2019s.<\/i> <\/p>\n
(2) It causes you to make decisions based on their approval.<\/i> <\/p>\n
Either way, you can end up feeling like a doormat. Maybe you became a people pleaser early in life to get the attention you craved and couldn\u2019t get any other way. Or maybe you never learned to trust your own judgment. The Bible says, \u2018Fearing people is a dangerous trap\u2019<\/i> (Proverbs 29:25 NLT), because it always backfires. Not only do others get upset with you, you end up disappointed with yourself when things don\u2019t work out. <\/p>\n
Peter struggled with people-pleasing. The night before the crucifixion when \u2018a servant girl\u2026 said\u2026 \u201cYou were one of those with Jesus\u201d\u2026 Peter denied it in front of everyone. \u201cI don\u2019t know what you\u2019re talking about.\u201d\u2019<\/i> (Matthew 26:69\u201370 NLT) Afterwards he ended up weeping over his failure. <\/p>\n
When Samuel confronted Saul about his decision not to completely destroy the Amalekites: \u2018Saul admitted\u2026\u201cI was afraid of the people and did what they demanded.\u201d\u2019<\/i> (1 Samuel 15:24 NLT) Paul, on the other hand, wrote, \u2018I\u2019m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ\u2019s servant.\u2019<\/i> It\u2019s good to be considerate, loving, and patient, but you can\u2019t let yourself be intimidated and manipulated: \u2018God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power.\u2019<\/i> (2 Timothy 1:7 NASB) <\/p>\n
When you yield to the fear of others you allow them, not God, to control your life. God doesn\u2019t want you to serve people out of fear, but out of love for them\u2014and Him.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
People pleasing does two things: (1) It makes you neglect your own needs in order to meet other people\u2019s. (2) It causes you to make decisions based on their approval. Either way, you can end up feeling like a doormat. Maybe you became a people pleaser early in life to get the attention you craved […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/373"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=373"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/373\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=373"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=373"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ucbmedia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=373"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}