God created us to enjoy unbroken fellowship with Him and each other. That’s why Satan’s first ploy was to separate us from God—and from each other. Using things like pride, stubbornness, confusion, resentment, and selfishness, he drives wedges and polarises relationships. What starts out as a misunderstanding often ends in angry stand-offs or toxic silences that last for hours, days, and sometimes years. Furthermore, we delude ourselves by thinking it’s nobody else’s business. The fallout can’t be contained. It affects every relationship in our lives—all because we’re determined to prove we’re right and the other person is wrong. And it’s not just a psychological problem; it’s a sin problem in need of a divine solution! Here is how God handles polarised relationships.
Paul writes, ‘God was reconciling the world to Himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them.’ Sin destroyed our relationship with God. Yet He took the initiative by giving Jesus ‘as a ransom [price paid] for many’ (Mark 10:45 NIV), in order to reconcile us to Himself. Reconciling means bringing back together what belongs together!
Notice this: God doesn’t count ‘people’s sins against them.’ Neither does He trivialise or ignore our sin debt. He cancelled it at the cross and stopped holding it against us. And it didn’t end there. He ‘made us agents of the reconciliation’ (2 Corinthians 5:19 PHPS) by calling us to ‘come back to God’ (2 Corinthians 5:19 NLT) and forgive each other.
Sometimes that means eating humble pie, becoming the reconciler, taking the initiative, and ending the stand-off. Are you ready to do that today?